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The Let’s Talk series
Denis & Arit Ekobena write for the reader who is tired of being told that love is enough. The assessments are free and tell you where you stand; the books are how you move. Every report ends by pointing to the chapters that fit your result.
Pairs with the Readiness Profile and Discernment Check for men.
Pairs with the Readiness Profile and Discernment Check for women.
The book behind the Pre-Marriage Assessment.
Included as a module in the Happily Ever After Check-Up.
The book behind the Happily Ever After Check-Up.
For men
A discernment guide before covenant
Written for the man who wants to choose well rather than quickly. It separates chemistry from character, asks what he is actually looking at, and refuses the two most common errors: choosing on beauty and agreeableness, and mistaking a woman’s carefulness for peace. It also turns the lens around, because the controlling pattern in a room is sometimes the reader’s own.
Pairs with the Readiness Profile and Discernment Check for men.
For women
A discernment guide before covenant
This is not a guide to help you get a man. It is a guide to help you avoid losing yourself. It gives women permission to observe patterns rather than only extend grace — to separate fruit from hope, spiritual language from spiritual life, and compassion from self-betrayal. Eight chapters, journal prompts throughout, and a red-flag inventory that does not apologise for existing.
Pairs with the Readiness Profile and Discernment Check for women.
For couples
The eight conversations
One chapter per door. Money and obligation. Family and in-laws. Faith and covenant. Sex and body. Words and conflict. Roles and work. Children and fertility. Character and story. Each chapter ends with the three questions a couple should ask each other that week, which are the same questions the assessment produces.
The book behind the Pre-Marriage Assessment.
For couples
The conversation the church skipped
Expectation, history, shame, refusal, health and pornography, written plainly for couples who were handed rules and never handed words. It takes both the theology and the body seriously, and it says the things that are usually left for a whispered conversation after the service.
Included as a module in the Happily Ever After Check-Up.
Married
Staying open for thirty years
About drift, repair and delight — what closes quietly after the wedding and the ordinary work of opening it again. Written for the couple at year seven who cannot name what changed, and for the couple at year twenty-five who can.
The book behind the Happily Ever After Check-Up.
Not a book — a workbook
The books help you understand. The Course makes you do.
Exercises, scripts and written commitments for each of the eight conversations, built to be completed by a courting or engaged couple — alone, with a Guide, or in the live online classes. It pairs with Let’s Talk About Marriage the way a lab pairs with a lecture.
Availability
The series is being published in English and French, in print for African markets and as ebook and audiobook everywhere. Churches and bookshops ordering in quantity should write to us directly.